Did you know that 80% of the divorces are initiated by women? At least in the US, but it also gives us a pretty accurate picture about what’s happening all over the world in marriages and relationships.
So it’s crucial for us men to know how to attract the right person in our lives, and who to choose, because the statistics are not in our favor.
I promise you, once you see the matrix, it will completely change the way you see the “why”, behind attracting the wrong woman.
Now, let’s see why are we constantly attracting the wrong woman.
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- So, why are we constantly attracting the wrong woman over and over again?
- So, what to do to avoid attracting the wrong woman?
So, why are we constantly attracting the wrong woman over and over again?
“Why do I attract the wrong woman?” – You might ask.
The short answer is: Because a few of your current priorities are matching, and it’s blinding you.
For the longer answer, let me give you these 3 examples.
Why do I attract the wrong woman – Example #1.
Imagine the following.
Let’s say you are into motorcycles.
- You always passionately talk about them.
- You know all the brands and models out there.
- And you might even have a Ninja 650R or so.
Now, let’s say you meet this girl.
You don’t really know her yet, but she is really into motorcycles as well.
Plus, she is really cute.
! IT’S A PERFECT MATCH !
“She is the one I was waiting for so long.”
“She is perfect.”
“I have to make this work, no matter what.”
“I can’t ruin this one.”
You see, you barely know this girl, but since she is cute, and you have a current priority in common, it feels like you connect already.
- It feels like you click.
- She’s really special.
- Like she is THE ONE!
And now you are coming up with all these theories why she is the perfect girl for you and why you must have her.
And then, slowly but surely, you notice, that you start to create feelings for her.
Maybe you are in love already. Who knows?
And guess what.
You don’t even knowing her.
And here we go again.
Might be attracting the wrong woman.
Just because we were blinded by something that is really important for us at the moment.
Blinded by a few of our current priorities.
Why do I attract the wrong woman – Example #2.
Let’s say you just went through a painful break-up.
- Your ex cheated on you.
- You’re really hurt and disappointed.
- And you don’t know if you can trust someone ever again.
Now, what could be your current priorities in this situation?
Maybe trust, fidelity and security?
And that’s all you’re looking for in a partner at the moment.
Let’s say you meet this girl who was also cheated on.
- You get to talk to her for a bit.
- She tells you know how disappointed she was.
- And that she can never understand a cheater.
At that moment, you resonate on a very deep level.
! BINGO !
And here we go again, with attracting the wrong woman.
Why do I attract the wrong woman – Example #3.
If your ex was a narcissist, do you think kindness and caring became no.1 priority in your life?
That one characteristic weighs so much at the moment, that nothing else really matters.
- And as you resonate with her, it feels like you REALLY CONNECT.
- It feels like it’s the perfect match.
- It MUST BE REAL, right?
“Finally, someone who cares about me.”
“Finally, someone who gets me.”
“Finally, someone who wouldn’t cheat on me.”
“Finally, someone who I can trust.”
And yet, we didn’t even give ourselves the time to know her for real.
We start to create feelings for her, and suddenly here we go again.
Potentially attracting the wrong woman.
Simply because we were blinded by a few of our current priorities.
Not to mention what happens if we are lonely, and we are desperately searching for love.
What can these current priorities be?
- Common goals.
- Common profession, if that is something really important for you at the moment.
- If you’ve fallen in love with her smile.
- Or if she’s just your type.
Oh, looks. It can weigh so much in our current priorities. Can we even be honest with ourselves about it?
So, what to do to avoid attracting the wrong woman?
Don’t get me wrong.
I’m NOT telling you that it’s a problem if we meet someone with whom we truly resonate, if we have the same priorities, or if we’re searching for stability, trust, or kindness in a person.
- Not at all.
- If you found a person with those characteristics, then great.
- That’s excellent.
Because we SHOULD have priorities, and we should be looking for these traits in a person.
BUT we shouldn’t let only a few of our current priorities to blind us completely.
That’s why it’s so important to get to know her first, before labeling her as the perfect partner.
That’s why it’s so important to see the whole picture, instead of only cutting out one or two important details, and focusing on it.
We are ZOOMED IN so much on that detail, which is so important for us at the moment, that we get completely blinded by it, and we tend to ignore everything else, that should be taken into consideration, before getting into a new relationship.
And that’s one of the main reasons, why we are constantly attracting the wrong woman into our lives, over and over again.
Right now, you are at step 9/10, in the 10-step system on how to find your ideal partner.
Continue the system with the next small bite, here.
If you don’t know about this system yet, BUT you truly want to find your ideal partner, then see the full 10-step system here.
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Until next time.
Thomas Kallos – Find Your Ideal Partner