Can you get rid of social anxiety?
YES, you can. But if you tried countless times to get rid of it without success, you might think it’s not possible.
But let’s dig a bit deeper, and see why we have social anxiety, and how to get rid of it.
Here are the 7 best tips on how to do it.
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- What is social anxiety? (Short)
- Can you get rid of social anxiety?
What is social anxiety? (Short)
Let’s see how social anxiety can be defined in a simplified way:
Social anxiety disorder is an intense, persistent fear of being watched and judged by others.
That means, that we are afraid that others will laugh about us, will judge us, and that we will make a fool of ourselves.
We feel like it’s a humiliating and embarrassing situation, thus, we always tend to find a way to avoid these social interactions.
Can you get rid of social anxiety?
So again. YES, you can. Since social anxiety is strongly connected with the fear of being judged, we have to aim and fix that part.
Let’s see now, how can you get rid of social anxiety?
#1. Start hearing your own thoughts.
Next time, when you have that social anxiety again, start listening to your own thoughts, and see what is it that you are afraid of.
Be aware, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind.
- Don’t judge it.
- Just be an observer, and accept it.
- It is what it is.
By the way, this first step will help you identify the root of the issue. If you make a good job with this, it will be easier afterwards to get rid of social anxiety.
And if you want to improve your awareness, then I absolutely recommend meditation. It will help you to hear your own thoughts more clearly.
Once we hear your own thoughts more clearly, we will notice, that most of our thoughts are about ourselves, what happened in the past, or planning for the future.
And we will also notice, that we barely put some emphasis on thinking about other people’s actions.
Which leads us to the next point.
#2. MINDSET – “Nobody cares!”
We often OVERESTIMATE what other people think about both our negative and positive actions. But in reality, nobody cares. Or at least the vast majority doesn’t.
You can make a little experiment, to convince yourself about this.
Next time, when you walk on the street, observes a few people who come in front of you, and try to imagine, what could go through their head at the moment.
Try to put yourself in their shoes.
- Are they worried about something?
- What problems are the currently facing?
- Are they excited about something?
- Are they wondering about something?
- Maybe they are planning for the future?
- Or maybe they are thinking about the next project?
- But ultimately, do they look like someone who are in their head?
Once you REALIZE, that the majority of people are in their own heads, thinking about themselves and their own problems, you will be able to TRULY let go of the thought, that others are watching you, and that you are the center of focus.
People just aren’t paying that much attention to you.
#3. MINDSET – “What’s the worst that can happen?”
What’s the worst that can happen?
Simply ask yourself this, and try to give a realistic answer to it.
It really isn’t such a big deal. Is it?
#4. MINDSET – “So what?”
- So what if they’re watching?
- So what if they have their own opinion?
- At the same time, so what if they judge?
Nothing really happens.
Plus, you didn’t do anything wrong.
And if you did make a mistake, so what?
Making a mistake is normal, everybody does it, only those don’t make mistakes, who don’t try at all.
Again, it’s not a big deal.
#5. MINDSET – “No matter what happens, I’ll be fine.”
Internalizing this mindset can give us so much peace.
Because, it’s so true.
- If you did something awkward, at least later on, you will have an awkward story to laugh about.
- If you messed up a bit, so what? Nothing really happened.
- And if you didn’t do anything bad to them, and they dislike you. So what? Not a big deal.
You know why?
Because no matter what happens, you’ll be just fine.
Just make sure you don’t offend or hurt anybody with your words or actions, and you’ll be just fine.
#6. MINDSET – “Why so serious?”
I mean, life is playful if we make it playful, and at the same time, it can be a dead serious journey, if we make it one.
So, try not to take life too seriously.
In other words, don’t be so strict with yourself.
- Instead, strive to be an easy-going person.
- Someone who can laugh about himself.
- A light-hearted person, who can crack a joke, even in difficult situations.
Simply learn to laugh about yourself and your own flaws, try not to assume, that you are the center of the conversation, and try not to get offended too often.
Life is too short to take everything too seriously.
And it’s more fun with that playfulness to it.
#7. Go out and socialize – Give it another try.
If you hoped, that you can get rid of social anxiety without ever having to talk to people, then I’m sorry to be the one who ruins it for you, but that’s not the case.
Just give it another try.
Because having all these mindsets hammered in your mind, COMBINED with slowly getting used to talking to people, IS the key to getting rid of social anxiety.
- “Nobody cares!”
- “What’s the worst that can happen?”
- “So what?”
- “No matter what happens, I’ll be fine.”
- “Why so serious?”
Might be a new way of seeing it.
It’s a chance for you to experience it, with another mentality.
Oh, and by the way, once you get better at it, you’ll love doing it more and more, and you’ll get rid of social anxiety in no time.
But if you’re constantly running away, and if you don’t face that fear once and for all, then you’ll remain in this infinite negative loop.
- Since you’re not good at it, you don’t like doing it.
- And since you don’t do it, you’re not going to get good at it.
So, just give it another shot, using these mindsets.
Even if you tried countless times before, to get rid of social anxiety.
After all, what can you lose? Right?
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