Does No Contact Rule Work After Break Up? – Get Her Back Using These 3 Steps

Did you know that the no contact rule has a 75% of success rate? At least according to Chris Seiter’s clients, who is a successful relationship and break up coach.

I think each of us experienced at least once in our lives that feeling, when we feel the urge to contact our exes. But when we miss them, it’s quite hard.

Maybe we messed up.

Maybe we got dumped.

And maybe we are sorry, and want to prove the other person that we’ve changed and learned from our mistakes.

So, does no contact rule work after break up?

And if it does, how to apply the no contact rule the right way?

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What is the no contact rule?

The no contact rule sounds pretty simple, yet it’s MUCH harder to execute.

Basically, after break up, you don’t contact your ex again for anything.

No matter how intense the urge might feel to reach out to her at the moment, you don’t contact her.

No texting. No calling. And no pursuing.


You DON’T come up with any excuses why you need to talk to her, or why you need to send her that funny meme.

Simply no contact.

That’s why it’s called no contact rule, after all.

Does no contact rule work after break up?

Does no contact rule work after break up

YES, no contact rule does work.

What’s more, according to many other articles, the success rate for no contact rule lays somewhere between 70–90%.

It doesn’t really matter what’s the exact number.

The point is that it actually works, and it brings the desired result in most cases. Which is finally being contacted by your ex, and many times being able to get your ex back.

Warning: Don’t use the no contact rule without actually understanding what’s the psychology behind it. First, understand WHY you do what you do, and only then take action. Because if you just do it without understanding it, or only because it has a high success rate, then you’ll never know why she didn’t come back to you.

The psychology behind no contact rule.

Scarcity creates value.

In other words, your absence creates that space for her to think, and that absence will bring that contrast between when you were fully available for her, and when you’re gone for real.

Here’s an interesting analogy.

Imagine your favorite coffee shop, where you go almost every day to have a coffee with your friends.

Or imagine your favorite place from where you order food every day.

Let’s say the next day you want to grab a coffee, or you want to order food from this place.

It’s temporarily closed.

It doesn’t say anything about why it is closed, when it is going to be open, or if it’s going to be re-opened at all in the future.

What’s the reaction?

First, we hope that it didn’t close permanently.

Then we wonder when it is going to re-open.

And suddenly we feel a little bad about it, and start to appreciate how great those coffees and foods were just a few days ago.

Can you see the analogy?

We only start to value that thing or that person, when we FEEL that contrast of being fully available, and being fully absent.

Not just know, but feel.

And for that, we truly have to create that absence, so they can actually feel that contrast.

And that’s how the no contact rule kicks in.

And that’s why the no contact rule works after break up.

How to apply the no contact rule the right way.

I said it before, and I’m going to say it again.

1. After the break up, do NOT contact her again

No text messages.

No phone calls.


As hard as it may be, don’t come up with any excuses, and don’t try to convince yourself that it is going to be a good idea.

You need to give her that space and time, so she can think it through, and feel your absenceOnly THEN she will be able to miss you and think about you.

Just walk away and mean it.

Just walk away and never look back.

If you keep reaching out and if you over-pursue, then you are just chasing her out of your life.

Understand that.

2. Start focusing on yourself

Yeah, I know, it sounds so cliché, right?

BUT. Are you actually doing it?

If you know the theory, but you don’t apply it in real life, then that theory is good for nothing.


Start focusing on yourself.

Do what you did before you met her.

Go out with your friends.

Go hit the gym.

Have some hobbies in your free time.

Surround yourself with valuable people.

Build on your goals and focus on becoming a better version of yourself.

Fill your days productivelyoccupy your mind, and trust me, she WILL notice it with time.

And if it isn’t her, who is going to notices it, then I bet that it will be an even better optionIF you keep going like this, and IF you keep working on yourself.

It’s simply a win-win situation for you.

3. Start dating other women

Since you are single now, you can start dating other women.

If you are going to be stuck on your ex, and if you won’t have any other options, then most probably the ice will break, and you will give in at some point by reaching out to your ex.

It’s up to you whether you have options or not.

You have control over this.

Start working on your social skills.

Get out of your comfort zone.

So start going out.

Put yourself in new environments where you can meet new people, and start dating new women.

There are so many great opportunities out there.

Don’t get hung up so much on just one.

So, does no contact rule work after break up?

Yes it does.

Do I recommend it?

Yes I do. But I also recommend understanding the WHY behind this rule, and to actually do the steps mentioned above, to achieve outstanding results, and to create a more successful life for yourself.

Thank you for reading through, and I hope this was of great value for you.

If you’re still unsure how to get over her, then check out my free PDF training about “How to stop caring for the wrong person”. It’s a detailed step by step training, where you’ll learn exactly what you need to do to finally get yourself over her.

Until next time.

Take care.

Thomas Kallos

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