Should I Accept the Friend Zone? – Men’s Dating Advice

“So I met this cute girl, and we’ve been talking to each other for quite a long time, but it seems like she friendzoned me. Should I accept the friend zone?

That is a question, that is asked so often by guys, typically by shy guys, who are afraid to make a move, and instead, they try to play it safe.

Unfortunately, it happens to many of us.

Should I accept the friend zone?

What is a good move in this situation?

Do I even have a chance with her at this point?

Let’s find out.

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Should I accept the friend zone?

For those of you, who are alright with you remaining just friends: YES, you should accept the friend zone.

And for those of you, who have some hopes of engaging with her romantically, dating her, or having her as your girlfriend: NO! Then you should never accept the friend zone!

Take this as the straight forward answer, and if you want to know why that is, then keep following.

Why I shouldn’t accept the friend zone?

So, at this point, we might think that, if we become close friends with her, THEN we’ll be able to make her our girlfriend.

We believe, that if we spend enough time with her, then she will finally see how great of a person we truly are.

And if we keep pursuing consistently, or if we’re persistent enough, she will start to like us more, and THEN we’ll finally have a chance to get her.

Unfortunately, this is NOT how it works.

If you’ve been around for quite a long time, talking to her, texting back and forth, listening to her problems, or helping her out with stuff, BUT didn’t go out to a date, then you already accepted the friend zone invitation.

It’s delusional to think, that she just needs time to realize how great we are.

To think that she is only shy, and that’s why she doesn’t have the courage to show her interest.

Trust me. Women who want to meet with a guy, will find a way to meet with him, no matter how shy she might be.

So, apply RULE #1, which is:

Never accept to be friends only. Never accept the friend zone invitation.

What is a good move in this situation?

Should I Accept the Friend Zone from her

Well, if you haven’t asked her out to a coffee yet, then that might be a great move for now.

It doesn’t matter what you come up with, as far as you make it man to women.

And be prepared, that it will be difficult to take that one shot, for which you have been waiting for so long.

There is no way around it.

She is treating us as a friend, because we were too nice all the way down.

She friendzoned us, because we didn’t make it man to woman.

Why?

Because we are afraid of her rejection.

Because we are playing it safe.

And because we don’t want to lose her.

That’s when we know that we’ve already put her on the pedestal.

That’s when we know, when we live in a scarce life.

So, what would be a good move in this situation?

Apply RULE #2, which is:

Make it man to woman. There is no way around. Ask her out, and find out for what have you been waiting for so long.

Do I even have a chance with her at this point?

After you made it man to woman, you might have to deal with a rejection. Which is totally fine.

Understand, that the dynamics between you and her until now was the following:

  • You -> Infatuating her and waiting for the perfect moment, but not showing direct interest.
  • Her -> You are being such a great friend who would always listen and help.

In her mind, you are just a friend.

And she will need time to digest what you just said to her.

So, if she declines your invitation, simply apply RULE#3, which is the following:

If she rejects you, that’s just totally fine. Accept it, don’t take it personally, and move on with your life.

And here comes into play RULE#1 again.

She might want to re-negotiate about the two of you still remaining friends.

So, should I accept the friend zone?

Hell no!

You don’t have to be rude about it.

You don’t have to be offended by it.

Simply let her know, that you are not interested in being friends only, and tell her, if she changed her mind, then just give you a call.

What’s next?

Should I Accept the Friend Zone

If you got rejected, don’t worry, the world didn’t come to an end.

There are endless opportunities out there.

You would be surprised how many, actually.

So, now your job is to completely focus on yourself.

Hit the gym.

Read self-developing books.

Broaden your social circle.

Surround yourself with great people.

Improve your social skills.

Meet new women.

And simply work on having a really awesome life.

Build such an awesome life, that would be an insane magnet for high quality women.

Such an awesome life, that would make your ideal partner do anything, just to be part of it as well.

Can you see now how many things can actually be done?

So, why be stuck on only one person?

Besides, let’s see the positive part for a moment. If you get rejected, you can finally find out the truth, move forward, and you don’t waste any more energy on someone, who wouldn’t even consider you as a potential romantic partner.

Show some self-respect.

Try to see the truth as it is.

And do what you have to do.


Thank you for reading through, and I hope this was of great use for you.

If you want to know in more detail how to get out of the friend zone, I have good news for you. I made a training on “How to get out of the friend zone”, which you can access now for free. It’s a detailed PDF training, where you’ll find exactly what you need to do, to get out of the friend zone. You can access it by subscribing to my newsletter.


Until next time.

Take care.

Thomas Kallos

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