Whether it’s a date, or you’re just getting to know each other, sometimes it can be difficult to keep going with the conversation, especially if we don’t know what to talk about with her.
So. What to talk about with her?
And which are the good topics?
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- What to talk about with her?
What to talk about with her?
1) Ask about her – And then expand on it
“RULE#1: Everyone loves to talk about themselves.”
If you understand this single rule, then it will be so much easier for you to have a conversation with anybody. Not only with women, but with anybody.
Because if you are able to make it about them, then they will be glad to bring it all out for you, and you’ll instantly have what to talk about with her.
Since everyone loves to talk about themselves. Right?
So, just ask the right questions, and you are more than halfway there.
These questions don’t have to be super complex.
They can be as simple as:
- How was work? (If she is working)
- How was your holiday? (If she was on a vacation)
- What are your plans for your birthday? (Or any other even that she might attend to)
But here is where most guys get stuck.
They just ask the question, and leave it like that.
Go deeper instead, and ask back about that topic that she was talking about.
- Really? How?
- Wow. Didn’t hear about that before. How’s that?
Just go a bit deeper, and as long as you are making it about them, and ask back about them, they will be glad to share it with you.
2) Crack a joke – Use humor
I can’t emphasize enough how powerful humor is.
It tells so much about a person:
- They don’t take life too seriously.
- They can joke about themselves, so they can go through hard time more easily.
- Plus, they are someone, with whom we can have a great laugh any time.
We all love people with a great sense of humor. Don’t we?
And it’s the same thing with women as well. Women LOVE men, with a great sense of humor. It’s one of the greatest and strongest characteristics a man can have.
RULE#2: “If you can make her laugh in a good way, you are halfway there.”
It’s important for it to be in a good way, since we can make them laugh just by being clownish or childish. That might have their attention, but it’s not necessarily in a good way. So be aware of that.
And the great part about this is, that humor is learnable. You just have to pay attention to the details, apply the right mindsets to let go, and give yourself time to develop your own style.
Here are 2 easy ways how you can develop your sense of humor:
- Watch stand-up comedies.
- Surround yourself with friends with a great sense of humor and spend time with them.
The more you watch it, and the more you are in that environment, the faster your brain will soak it up. Humor is contagious, and if you spend enough time “listening” to it, then it will automatically stick to you.
3) Tell a story
Of course, a vast majority of the times, you’ll have to focus on making it about her and ask the right questions, while bringing some humor into the conversation, but there will be times when you’ll have to be speaking as well.
That’s when story telling comes into the picture.
So, instead of describing yourself directly with various attributes, you can tell her a story, that will describe you in a better way. Of course, always try to be humble, when telling stories of success, or any kind.
- This way, you don’t praise yourself.
- It makes the conversation more interesting.
- And she can connect into the conversation, so you’ll have other topics to talk about.
This way the conversation can go on, and you’ll have what to talk about with her.
Story telling is another form of art, and just like humor, it’s one of the greatest tools a strong character can have.
So, if you want to practice it, next time when something happens to you, try to make a story about it, make it interesting, and tell it to your friends.
Or you can even tell that story out loud to yourself, when nobody hears you, if you want to practice it more.
Practice is the only way how you can get better at it. So better start to create and tell those stories as soon as you can.
4) Stop saying bulls*it – The Hollywood Movie Moment
You might have heard, that 93% of our communication is non-verbal, and only 7% of it is verbal, which are the actually words that we use.
So why do we need to put so much emphasis on it? Right?
That’s why this one particular point is so important.
So. Stop saying bulls*it.
This can be:
- Something offensive towards her.
- Getting butt hurt and reacting like that, because of something we didn’t like.
- Crossing their boundaries.
It is deeply connected with the Hollywood Movie Moment.
What do I mean by that?
Well, in these Hollywood movies, there are some scenes, when the main character tells one thing, and it changes everything.
And we might think sometimes, that with a special line, we are going to be able to change the way she feels about us.
Or if we spike her emotions a bit, she might have that “AHA” moment, which will make her wonder and re-think about the whole relationship between the two of you.
Just like in the old Hollywood movies.
Can you resonate?
Because if yes, then you need to stop to believe, that there will be one line that will change everything.
Because usually, these are the moments which will scare them, and push them away from your life.
Just carry on being a cool guy, bring some humor into the conversation, and if you can make it about her, you are good to go to have a great conversation with her.
Some honest words
At this point, maybe you were expecting to see a list of topics, about what to talk about with her.
Well, I’m sorry if I have to disappoint you, but there is no such list with “the most interesting topics”.
Because, believe me or not, if YOU make it interesting, then it WILL be interesting. But that’s another story, about how to talk to her in a confident manner.
So instead, I wanted to give you 4 powerful weapons, that will benefit you in the longer term, so you can connect the dots, see the matrix, and use these them when you’re talking to women, or anybody else.
1) Ask about her.
2) Crack a joke.
3) Tell a story.
4) Stop saying bulls*it.
If you follow these simple steps, then you’re good to go to have a great conversation, and with some practice, you’ll know what to talk about with her.
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Until next time.
Thomas Kallos – Find Your Ideal Partner